I have done quite a bit of reading on Mother's lately. For the ONE class I will probably be passing this semester I had the opportunity to read a diary of a Mormon pioneer from the early 1900's. She was the mother of 12! Her life was focused on Church and Family. She knew what she wanted and what her role in life was, her husband was a farmer and she was in charge of the home and rearing the children.
When I started college I was plotting to take over, and change the world *insert maniacle laughter* I was on the fast track to graduating early and heading off to law school, I was going places (Princeton). Then I got discouraged so I took a summer off to work, as I was preparing to return home and back to my studies I was sucked into a whirlwind romance (that makes it sound like I didn't enjoy it- it had its good moments) so I put school on hold and when I finally refocused and was ready to return to my studies my world was turned upside down when I figured out that I was expecting. {Perhaps now would be a good time to mention that the whirlwind romance resulted in a marriage} My pregnancy forced me to stop EVERYTHING I was doing, I had to quit the job that I had just started and LOVED and school was not possible. I had NEVER been so sick in my life.
When my daughter finally arrived I was so grateful to have that tiny little miracle in my arms. My whole perspective changed, I no longer felt the need to take over and change the world but rather do all I could to make HER world the best it could be.
Its amazing how quickly my views on being a working mom changed. I had dreamed of having it all, a face paced career and family but once the family part came along, all I wanted to do was stay home with my little girl. Sadly my marriage ended a three short months after she was born. So I have had the opportunity to be a single mom. Not exactly how I envisioned being a mom but you play the hand that is dealt, right?
As I have struggled with adjusting to being not only a mom but a single mom I have realized the importance of mothers. I have gained respect for my own mother, she has FOUR kids and when I think of many of the basic thing that I do everyday, brushing my teeth, tying my shoes, putting my shirt on the right way, brushing my hair, things that I am teaching my own daughter I realize that it was MY mother that taught me.
Playing the hand you're delt instead of throwing in the cards...really what it's all about anyway; what a powerful thing to teach your daughter...along with putting your shirt on the right way, of course.
ReplyDeleteIts amazing how those little finders wrap you right around them! I had similar feelings about working and life and taking over the world, until my daughter was born.
ReplyDeleteIsn't it amazing to think of all those skills that have been passed down through the ages by mothers? And we get to be a part of that chain!
ReplyDeleteI think that having that education, while not being used in the "work force" is still a valuable asset to a woman. Teaching our children the way is truly a full time job but not paid in anyway but in satisfaction and love from the little ones....but o what a wonderful payment!
ReplyDeleteYou sound like a real trooper an a great Mother! What a very nice post!
ReplyDeleteFunny how a little thing can have such a big impact!
ReplyDeleteI agree, it is amazing how much your dreams will change when baby comes along. They don't go away, just change into new ones.
ReplyDeleteWe all must "play the hand we are dealt" and it appears you are doing a great job.
Motherhood definetely made me appreciate my mom more!
Oh, you said everything! How true it is that a baby can change your life plans!! The same happened to me, and I'm not ashamed to say that Motherhood is for sure the best job in the world, although I had not always thought that way.
ReplyDeleteYou must have a wonderful Mother!
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